I hope that your week has gone well so far. This morning, I woke up thinking about people who hold on to their past. These people hold on to their past because they are not ready to let it go. Sadly, these people will never experience true happiness because they are still thinking about the person that hurt them in the past. Today, we are gonna discuss ways that you can stop living in the past so that you can face your future.
Here are some reasons why people are stuck in the past:
1. They are still thinking about their first love. Some people believe that no one can love them like their first love did. Well, if you are no longer with your first love, you can tell that the love was not mutual for both people. Stop holding on to your first love. This person may have liked you but they hurt you as well. It's time to move on so that you can find someone who can love all of you.
2. They are still thinking about what their life used to be like. So many people look to the past because they remember all of the fun that they used to have. They remember the days when they used to party and hang out with their friends. Well, now that you have children, your partying days are over. It is time to grow up and be an adult. You are not 18 anymore....it is time to embrace your real age and a level of responsibility in your life.
3. Some people still miss the days when they used to have a lot of friends. Be for real: You know that most of those people were frenemies because they talked about you when you were not around. Right now, you may only have a few friends. In this life, you only need a few close friends. If a person is not your friend, they do not need to exist in your life as an associate.
4. Some women miss the days when they could jump from one man to the next man. Honestly, that is not a good thing to do (in the past or in the present). As women, we need to realize that our greatest asset is our brains. The media will lead you to believe that something else is your greatest asset but when "something else" gets worn out, what will you have to offer the next man in your life? Your past has lead you to believe that you can juggle men but in all honesty, those men are talking about you behind your back. Get it together and stop using "something else" to get what you want out of life. Your brain works....use it!
5. Some men miss the days when they could juggle various women at a time. Even the best man will get tired of carrying on with a different woman each day. It is time to grow up and be mature. Life is not about the amount of women that you were with....it is about finding what you want in a relationship. At the age of 20, juggling women sounds like an enticing sport. But by the age of 30 and 40, you will start wanting to settle down. But please settle down with someone who wants to settle down with you. You deserve the best...go out and find it!
6. Some people miss the days when they did not have kids. When you don't have kids, you can kick back and relax because you only have to think about yourself. But when you have kids, your main priority should be your kids. Everyone else is secondary. Your days of staying out late are over. Your days of carrying on with multiple people are over. If you don't show your kids the best example, they will end up being just like you....lost and confused. Now that you have kids, you need to focus on your kids and how to raise them properly.
7. Some people miss being in a relationship. Let's be real: A relationship does not make you. You are one person in a two person situation. If you are not a whole person when you enter a relationship, you will start acting needy and it will suffocate the other person. No matter what happens, you need to be able to stand on your own two feet whether you are in a relationship or not.
8. Some people get married because they miss being with someone. Well, getting married and being married are two different things. If you do not enter marriage on honest terms, your whole life will begin to unravel in front of your face. If you only got married to make your friends jealous, you will end up living a lie. At that, if you got married because everyone else was doing it, you will end up miserable in due time. Stop looking at other people and look at yourself. If you are not ready to get married, don't get married. It is wrong to hold up someone else's life when you are not ready to go the long distance with them.
9. Some people miss the days when they were children and they had no responsibility. Well, those days are long gone. You are now and adult and you are responsible for the decisions that you have made. If you don't like your decisions, then you need to change them. But you are no longer a child so this means that you have to accept your life for what it is. When you are ready to change your life, you will do it. But if you don't do it, your past will follow you into your future.
10. Some people would rather living in the past than in the present. Why would you want to dwell on someone or something that was not positive in your past? When you do this, you are hurting yourself all over again. Your past is exactly what it is.....your past. You are supposed to grow from your past not dwell in it. But if your past was better than the present time (in your view), you probably need to alert the people in your life so that they can spend time with a person who wants to exist in the present. If you want your life to be stagnant (as it was in the past), fine. But don't drag someone else into your depressed state of mind. They need someone who will be there for them through thick and thin situations. If you are stuck in the past, that person is not you!
Stop living in the past.....your future awaits you!
2012 is coming....it is time to move forward!
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