I hope that you had a productive day. My day was very busy because I worked with the Jilin University Delegation as they visited the university that I attend. These delegates will be visiting the area for 6 days so that they can find ways to integrate western culture into their university teaching. So far, it seems like they are enjoying the sessions that they have attending. In any event, I was thinking about bereavement and I wonder why people change when death occurs in their families. Today, I will discuss why death changes people.
Let's get started....
Some people change because they really miss their loved one. Their feelings are very strong as it relates to that person. They want to have some time so that they can express their feelings about the deceased individual. If people have grown together over the years, it will be hard for them to let go and move on. As much as possible, allow people a chance to grieve in a way that works for them.
Some people change because there were harsh feelings before the person passed away. If an argument happened before the person passed away, it is possible that it was not resolved in the best way. Unresolved arguments tend to leave people feeling like they could have done more to handle the situation. When arguments happen, it is best to resolve them so that you can move forward with your life. Do not hold on to things that are not worth your time.
Some people change because they were in love with the person who passed away. Often times, feelings have a lot to do with the way that people respond to each other. If there was a case were a person was in love with another person and they chose not to pursue the opportunity, then it would be natural for them to be hurt if the person died. In these cases, it is good to tell a person how you feel before it is too late.
Finally, some people change because they did not like the spouse that the deceased person chose to marry years ago. Sometimes, people hold grudges because they feel that the person could have made a better choice in choosing a life partner. But we must remember that everyone has a right to chose who they want to marry. Freedom of choice is a right that we all have. All in all, you do not get to choose who a person marries. As much as possible, aim to put your differences aside during the time of bereavement.
Do what you can to settle your differences before a person passes away!
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